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Video Game Addiction in Relationships
If you read the research and media stories on video game addiction, you may believe that it is only something that happens to teenage boys and single men in their twenties. Unfortunately though, many people (from teenagers all the way to those in their 60s) find themselves in relationships with boyfriends or husbands who are addicted to video games.
Of course women can also become addicted to computer games, but the research consistently finds that males tend to be more at risk for video game addiction.
For the partners of people who are obsessed with video games, it feels as if they are being ignored or even abandoned in favor of their boyfriend’s or husband’s latest computer game obsession.
Is It Worth Getting Upset About?
There are those who argue that if this is your situation you really shouldn’t complain too much about it – after all wouldn’t a drug, alcohol, or gambling addiction be much worse? In fact, even if your husband or boyfriend plays video games too much…at least he is right there at home with you and “not out at a bar somewhere”.
Not very comforting is it?
The fact is, you chose to be in a relationship with this person and he chose to be in it with you. And it is safe to assume that you both made this choice because you wanted to share part of your life with this person. To do so however, requires that you actually spend meaningful time together (not just “time”).
Meaningful Time Together is the Key
So what is meaningful time? The definition will obviously vary from person to person, but would you agree that this time has to (at the very least) be both voluntary and chosen over other options?
For example, let’s assume that the only regular time your boyfriend or husband spends with you is during the commute to work or school and for an hour or so during dinner. Otherwise, when he has the option he spends all of his time at home with his favorite console or computer game. His evenings and weekends are devoted to video games, not you…or anything else.
There is nothing wrong with having some alone time, even when you are in a relationship – in fact it is actually quite healthy. The problem here is not that your boyfriend or husband plays video games – you would likely be just fine with occasional play as a way to distress or relax at the end of the day.
The problem is that when given the option, he appears to be choosing video games over you.
How Your Boyfriend’s or Husband’s Video Game Addiction Affects You
Needless to say, feeling as though you are less important than a video game character is not what you were looking for when you entered this relationship. When someone is dating or married to a video game addict, it can have quite an impact on their self-esteem and their security in the relationship.
They may feel:
- Unappreciated
- Ignored
- Unimportant
- Disrespected
- Unloved
- Taken for granted
Given these feelings, it is not surprising that they start to wonder if the person will ever cut back on gaming time, or if not, whether they should remain in the relationship.
How Do You Know if Your Boyfriend or Husband is Addicted to Video Games?
While there is no formal diagnosis of video game addiction, an obsession with video games can definitely have a negative impact on the quality of a relationship. What are the signs that your husband or boyfriend is addicted to video games?
Take our informal quiz to get a sense of whether computer game addiction is a problem in your relationship.
Video Game Addiction Test for Partners
1) My husband or boyfriend is happier when he is playing video games than when he is spending time with other people.
TRUE FALSE
2) My husband or boyfriend would almost always rather play video games than go out socially.
TRUE FALSE
3) My husband or boyfriend often plays computer games for hours every day even when other responsibilities are not taken care of (e.g., school, work, kids, household chores, etc.).
TRUE FALSE
4) My husband or boyfriend spends almost every evening playing video games.
TRUE FALSE
5) The work or school performance of my husband or boyfriend has suffered as a result of excessive computer gaming.
TRUE FALSE
6) It is common for my husband or boyfriend to stay up past midnight playing video games – and he is often tired the next day as a consequence.
TRUE FALSE
7) My husband or boyfriend no longer participates in sports or activities he once enjoyed and now devotes most of his time to video games.
TRUE FALSE
8) When I ask my husband or boyfriend stop playing and spend time with me (even if he has already been playing for hours) he gets angry or irritable.
TRUE FALSE
9) Other people have commented that my boyfriend or husband plays video games too much.
TRUE FALSE
10) My husband or boyfriend often eats meals while playing computer games rather than taking a break to eat.
TRUE FALSE
11) My husband or boyfriend lies about how much time he spends playing video games.
TRUE FALSE
12) My husband or boyfriend promises to just spend a few minutes playing computer games, but this often turns into hours.
TRUE FALSE
How many of the above statements are true for you? Although there is no cut-off indicating that video game addiction is present, obviously the more items that apply to you the greater the likelihood that excessive computer gaming is damaging your relationship.
Advice for Stopping a Partner’s Video Game Addiction
1. Don’t offer to join him.
If you have already looked for advice online on how to deal with a partner’s video game addiction, you may have seen the suggestion to join him in his hobby. That is, take an interest in video games yourself and this way you can spend time with your boyfriend or husband while you both play games together.
Forget it.
Yes, it is true that in some relationships both partners are gamers and enjoy spending time together in this way – it can happen. However, this usually develops naturally from a mutual, pre-existing interest in video games, and not from one partner who is desperately trying to be noticed and valued in the relationship.
There are many problems with this “solution”, the most obvious being that it does not address the issue of choosing video games over your relationship. The person is still defaulting to gaming when given a choice. Simply being allowed to play with him is unlikely to make you feel any more important in the relationship. Saying “If you want to spend time with me no one is stopping you from picking up a controller” still sends the message that video games take priority over the relationship.
Additionally, you may have absolutely no interest in playing these games…and he may actually prefer to keep gaming as “his thing” (which is usually just fine if he still makes plenty of time for you).
2. Don’t call it an “addiction”.
Although excessive computer gaming is often referred to as an “addiction”, it is not an officially recognized mental health diagnosis. The use of the term addiction is mainly used as a simple way to refer to “unhealthy or excessive video gaming habits that significantly interfere with social, relational, educational, occupational, or emotional functioning”. Clearly it is much easier to use the term “video game addiction” than the previous definition!
Given that video game addiction is not a recognized disorder and that using the term will likely only make your boyfriend or husband even more defensive (“It’s not even a real disorder – how can I be addicted?!”), there is little practical use in using the words “addiction” or “addicted”.
3. Don’t automatically assume that excessive video gaming is a “symptom of a deeper underlying issue”.
Yes, it is true that turning to video games can be a way of dealing with feelings of depression, anxiety, or interpersonal difficulties – this should not be overlooked. However, this is not always the case. Sometimes, video game addiction is simply an unhealthy obsession with games – this is the issue. The person is drawn in by the challenges, strategies, competition, visuals, rewards, and feels a sense of accomplishment when mastering the game (see Why Are Video Games Addictive?).
The problem may not be that he is depressed or socially anxious, but that he has prioritized video games over other activities and has difficulty setting limits on his gameplay.
4. Avoiding or ignoring it won’t make it go away.
If your boyfriend’s or husband’s video game addiction is significantly interfering with the quality of your relationship (you should have a sense of this by taking the quiz above), something needs to be done about it. Too often the partners of video game addicts avoid talking about their concerns because they are afraid that it will make the situation even worse. True, it may cause a temporary increase in the overall stress level in your relationship. However, the purpose of discussing relationship problems (whatever they may be) is to deal with before them become out of control.
Let your partner know:
- that you love him or care about him
- that you are concerned about his video game habits (not “addiction”)
- that you miss spending time with him
- that you believe it is affecting your relationship
- that spending so much time with video games makes you feel ignored
- that it is very important to you that talk about this and address it as a couple
5. It is OK to offer suggestions.
Hopefully your partner is receptive to the conversation above as initiated by you. If so, you may be wondering “now what?” Obviously the steps that are taken from here will depend on your specific situation. However, it is perfectly reasonable to offer a few tentative ideas for his feedback:
“I care about you and I care about this relationship. But sometimes I feel ignored when video games take so much of your time. I think that this is affecting our relationship and I am worried that we may not be spending enough quality time together. I know that you like playing these games and I’m not asking you to stop. But maybe we could agree to cut back to an hour or two per day so that we still have time for each other? This is very important to me. What do you think?”
5. Don’t settle for being less important than computer games.
Asking that your boyfriend or husband spend more time with you than with computer games is not unreasonable! Occasionally, couples become so comfortable with each other that they stop putting time and energy into the relationship. They may mistakenly assume that the other person will always be there no matter what.
When someone stops trying and their partner no longer feels special, appreciated, or important, this is the beginning of the end for the relationship. No one is in a relationship to be ignored – you cannot settle for this and do not need to compete with a video game for attention from your boyfriend or husband.
6. If necessary, consider couples therapy or other treatment options.
If your partner is unwilling to discuss or compromise on his gaming habits even after following the advice above, consider couples therapy.
When suggesting this, try to avoid making statements like “We need to go to couples counselling to fix this”. Also, don’t make this suggestion in frustration or anger after a huge argument. Rather, wait until you are feeling close to your partner. Comment on the good day (or afternoon, or morning, etc.) that you have had together and how great it would be to have more times like this. Introduce couples counseling as a way “feel even closer to each other” and as a way to be “stronger as a couple”. That is, focus on the positives that can come from this rather than presenting it as a last attempt to “save” your relationship.
Often, making the decision to try therapy is the largest hurdle to overcome. If this applies to your boyfriend or husband, suggest it as “An experiment - let’s just see what it is like. No commitments. If it is helpful, great! If not, we don’t need to go back. Can we try this?”
If your partner is still unwilling to try couples counselling, consider looking into individual therapy. If he is reluctant, he may be willing to read this downloadable workbook for video or computer game addiction.
If he refuses all of these options and you strongly believe that obsessive computer use is harming your relationship (and how you feel about yourself), you need to seriously evaluate whether you can continue to invest time and energy into it. Talk to friends and / or family about your situation and ask for their advice or feedback. You may also want to book an appointment with a psychologist or therapist for yourself – this can be very helpful for generating ideas, reviewing your options, and deciding how (or if) to proceed with the relationship.
Leaving the Relationship
It is definitely possible to overcome video game addiction, so don’t give up on your partner too easily. But if it is clear that:
1) playing video games is his number one priority
2) you are putting far more effort into the relationship than he is
3) you often feel ignored in favor of gaming
4) you have repeatedly asked him to cut back on his gaming time with no success
5) he is unwilling to talk about this issue
6) he is unwilling to seek help
7) he is not motivated to change
…this may unfortunately mean that leaving the relationship needs to be considered.
Related & recommended pages on this topic:
- Video Game Addiction Symptoms and Signs
- What is Video Game Addiction?
- Video Game Addiction Statistics - Facts, Figures, Percentages, & Numbers
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My Boyfriend Cheated on Me
You thought you knew him. Your boyfriend was loving, kind, and affectionate, and you found out that he wasn't the man you believed him to be. If you discovered that your boyfriend cheated on you, it's completely understandable that you're devastated. But you can get through this, with the right resources.
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'Why Did He Cheat on Me?'
You may be asking yourself, 'Why did my boyfriend cheat on me?' You're angry, hurt, and feel betrayed. This person was supposed to love you and honor your commitments. They've broken your trust and made you question everything about your relationship. When you find out that your partner cheated, many questions come into play. And you're allowed to feel all of your feelings. There is no wrong way to feel in this situation.
You may be in a state of shock. That's understandable, and if you can't seem to grasp what he did, you don't have to push yourself to feel differently than you feel right now. Your emotions are probably all over the place. One thing you can do is talk to your friends. Confide in a close friend or loved one and tell them how you're feeling. You're allowed to be angry, sad, frustrated, or confused. Maybe you believed that your relationship was perfect, and this infidelity comes as a complete surprise to you. Perhaps you suspected something was wrong, but couldn't put your finger on it. Whatever the case may be, you know the truth, and now it's time to handle your emotions.
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How can you cope? While friends and loved ones have great insight, another way you can handle your complex emotions is therapy. Whether you see an individual therapist or go to couples counseling or both, therapy can help you process your feelings about cheating. You can get through this time with the support of a mental health professional who cares. Online counseling is an excellent place to start working through these feelings and talking about how the affair impacted your life. If you're in couples counseling, the therapist can help you communicate your emotions to your boyfriend in a way that he can hear them. Therapy will help you confront your pain, get support, and move forward.
BetterHelp Cares About Your Heart
Relationships are an integral part of our lives. We all want to be loved, and when you've found a partner who you adore, you want to keep that connection healthy. The counselors at BetterHelp can support you as you navigate issues that come up in your romantic relationship. They've worked with many people in your shoes and helped them heal from the wounds of infidelity. Maybe you're considering leaving your boyfriend, but you're unsure. Perhaps you want to hash out your problems because you love him and want to stay together. It's okay not to know, and you will figure it out in online counseling.
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The counselors at BetterHelp want you to find real, lasting love. Maybe you and your boyfriend have a chance to make this relationship work, but you don't know until you process everything in a healthy way. You might be working on your problems in individual therapy, or you may be talking about cheating with your boyfriend and a couples counselor. These are both great options. You deserve to have someone who cares about you and can be honest about their feelings. Your online therapist at BetterHelp will support you in navigating through these emotions you're feeling, and you will make the right decision as to how to handle your boyfriend's indiscretion. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors.
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Your Feelings Are Valid After Being Cheated On
Maybe you had suspicions of his unfaithfulness, or perhaps you were completely blindsided by it. It could be that he confessed to you first, or maybe your friends saw him out one night. No matter how it happened, you felt devastated after he cheated on you. It was like a punch in the gut. More than likely, you got angry, or sad, or determined, or all of these emotions occurred at once. When you find out that your trust has been shattered there is no wrong way to feel. You might feel angry, sad, or shocked. These are all understandable emotions given the circumstances.
Next Steps
But what do you do next? It's tempting to try to 'move on' after he begs for forgiveness, but that's easier said than done. Recovering from infidelity in a relationship takes a lot of hard work - and usually, needs the support of a professional counselor to walk both you and your partner through the ruins of your relationship and to help you rebuild it.
If you're struggling to get over an incident of cheating in your life, here are some things to think through that may help you effectively process the occurrence and move on. Writing your answers out can be extremely helpful for processing your feelings.
- Did you fully trust your partner before the cheating incident?
- Does your partner seem genuinely sorry, or were they sorrier that they got caught?
- Is your partner willing to do hard work to repair the relationship, or do they want to move on as quickly as possible without dealing with the fallout?
- Are unresolved feelings from past infidelity affecting the level of trust in your current relationship?
- What would it take for you to trust your partner again fully?
- What makes you want to repair and continue this relationship?
- If your best friend came to you with a similar situation, what advice would you give them? Are you following your advice?
- Does your partner seem angry or irritated at you for not trusting them after this incident?
- Are they willing to give you the support or space you need to address your emotions?
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My Boyfriend Cheated On Me Now What
Professional Help
If you have suffered through infidelity, you could greatly benefit from counseling. Whether you're trying to salvage your relationship, or you need to recover after your relationship ended, an unresolved incident of cheating can have severe consequences for the health of your relationships even if you leave your unfaithful partner. BetterHelp.com has experienced, licensed counselors available that can help you rebuild your capacity to trust an intimate partner. Their services are affordable and offered in a convenient online format. You deserve to be happy, and your happiness shouldn't have to suffer based on someone else's poor decisions. Seek help and start to put your life back together. If you prefer traditional, face-to-face therapy, this is also a great resource to coping with, processing, and moving forward in life.
Face Feelings of Loss
The fact that your boyfriend cheated on you represents a loss of your life. Whether the relationship can be repaired or not, you have lost the connection you once had. You may go through periods of intense sadness, anger, and guilt. You may be obsessed with understanding why this happened to you. You might convince yourself to give your boyfriend another chance on certain conditions. It's common to go through all the stages of grief.
It can be a very emotional time in your life. However, you might feel numb and wonder what's wrong with you if you don't cry. Either way, it's essential to identify your feelings and come to terms with them. If you're speaking to a therapist about these feelings, you have the opportunity to express them to someone who won't judge you. This counselor can guide you in rethinking your situation now that you have the new information that your boyfriend has cheated. With unique thought patterns in place, the feelings can become more manageable.
Watch for Signs of Depression and Anxiety
After you've lost trust in your boyfriend, your grief can turn into depression. Perhaps you aren't taking care of yourself as you once did. Maybe you're spending a lot of time alone. Your identity might have been so wrapped up in the relationship that you no longer know who you are or what purpose there is in your life. If you get stuck in thoughts that your life as you knew it is over, depression can eventually follow. Look out for these signs:
- Feelings of sadness
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Eating too much or too little
- Unexplained aches
- Feeling anxious or irritable
- Not able to concentrate as usual
- Having little or no energy
- Losing interest in favorite activities
Anxiety can rear its head, especially if you've been in the relationship for a long time. You may feel anxiety intensely if your housing situation has changed, or you were dependent on their income to make ends meet. You might feel anxiety for no other reason than that you're in new and uncomfortable territory on a path you did not choose. A therapist can teach your techniques for dealing with anxiety.
Your boyfriend has dealt a blow to your sense of self-worth. You may wonder if you're loveable at all. If his actions made you feel like you're not attractive enough, smart enough, or not good enough, you can benefit from spending some time building your self-esteem.
An online counselor can help you evaluate your thoughts and understand how your boyfriend's infidelity compromised your sense of self-worth. They may suggest that you think of your positive qualities. They might give you homework to do things that bring out the best in you and increase your self-esteem. Having good self-esteem can affect everything from your career to your family relationships. Improving it is an excellent way to move on with a more satisfying life or to stay with a new sense of independence.
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Manage Your Anger
Anger is a natural reaction to being cheated on by your partner. You can be the most loving, caring, attractive, and exciting person in the world, but if your boyfriend has issues of his own, he may still cheat. Allow yourself to feel your anger without telling yourself it's wrong.
Feelings of anger don't always show up right away. You may feel hurt, rejected, or sad at first. You may never permit yourself to feel your anger if you learned to fear or avoid that emotion as a child. The best thing you can do if you have unresolved feelings of anger is to get into therapy and
Learn how to manage those feelings. It isn't helpful to deny or suppress anger, but your counselor can help you find appropriate ways to deal with it.
Learn to Avoid Unhealthy Relationships
What so often happens when we end a relationship with someone who's cheated on us is that we quickly fall into a similar relationship. Learning what contributed to the infidelity and other problems in your relationship can help you avoid having a series of boyfriends who do the same to you. That means dealing with the issues that cause you to be attracted to these kinds of people. It also means knowing the red flags to look for when you get involved with someone new, this incident was painful enough, and you probably don't want something like this to happen to you again. A counselor can help you explore your background and issues so that you become better at choosing partners.
How to Make a New Plan After Being Cheated On
If your boyfriend cheated on you, something in the relationship was broken. You may decide to stay with your boyfriend and forge a new relationship. That road can be a difficult one. Both people have to participate in the healing and rebuilding process of the relationship. A therapist can help you with this process fairly and reasonably. If you don't deal with the infidelity in a way that works for both of you, the problem is bound to resurface, whether in another episode of cheating or in the gradual disintegration of your relationship.
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Should you stay, or should you go? You need to make a new plan. You need a game plan for yourself that honors your rights and who you are as an individual. The relationship will never be the same. However, if you both do the work to heal the broken bond, it could survive and maybe even get better. You may find that you aren't willing to continue it. You may instead want to spend your time and effort in building a new life on your own. Working with an online counselor can help you build confidence in yourself, point you in the direction of what you want in a romantic relationship, and help you achieve that goal. You can have the life you want, but to do so, you have to deal with your issues and learn how to love yourself more.
Contact BetterHelp
For more information on where to find a therapist that can help you, you can reach out to [email protected]. You can also find us on LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Google+, Facebook, YouTube & Tumblr.
Read more from BetterHelp about Cheating & Mental Health:
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- Is He Cheating Or Am I Paranoid: How To Know For Sure - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/is-he-cheating-or-am-i-paranoid-how-to-know-for-sure/
- I Cheated On My Boyfriend And I Feel Awful. What Can I Do? - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/i-cheated-on-my-boyfriend-and-i-feel-awful/
- 5 Signs She Is Cheating On You - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/5-signs-she-is-cheating-on-you/
- She Cheated On Me, Why Do I Still Love Her? - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/she-cheated-on-me-why-do-i-still-love-her/
- My Girlfriend Cheated On Me: Now What? - https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/relations/my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-now-what/
If you are in crisis or want to learn more about mental health, do not hesitate to call the hotlines below:
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RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) - 1-800-656-4673
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-8255
National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233
NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) - 1-800-950-6264, for more information: [email protected], or visit their Facebook Page.